Mom invites "class clown" to daughter's 13th birthday despite her protests, dad refuses to punish teen when she yells at bratty guest for destroying her cake: "This is why I didn't want you here!"

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    AITA for refusing to punish my daughter after she blew up on the classclown that she dint want at her birthday party?

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    My daughter is 13 and she goes to a small school. Her grade only has 18 students (10 boys and 8 girls). My daughter also has
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    other friends from the sports she does. We plan to have her go to a much larger high. school in the future. Her 13th birthday party
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    was last weekend and I asked who she wanted to invite, she wanted to invite 7 of the girls from her class and 5 from her soccer team. The one girl she doesn't want to invite is name Kelly.
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    My daughter doesn't like Kelly, she is the class clown in her grade and my daughter hides her annoying and attention seeking. I
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    asked her why she didn't want her there and her response was "she ruins school for me all the time, I don't want her to ruin my birthday." I agreed with her list and sent the invites out.
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    My ex-wife is invited to all her major milestone instead of us doing separate events. I learned an hour beofre the party
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    my ex-wife sent an invte to Kelly since her mom found out about the party. My daughter was not happy to see her (it was a suprise for her), I told her to enjoy the party.
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    It was going well until the cake came out, my daughter wanted a glitter cake (when you blow out the candles glitter goes
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    everywhere). While everyone was around the cake, Kelly took her fingers and swiped icing off the top layer of the cake. It ruined the cake and my daughter lost it. She yelled
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    at Kelly, basically saying, "what is wrong with you, this is why I didn't want you her and that you ruin everything." She ran to her room after and Kelly was crying.
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    Kelly's parent is wanting an apolgy, my ex- wife wants her to apoligze as well. I am refusing to make her do that or punish her at all. I pointed out that my ex never should
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    have invited her and to the mom that her child ruined the cake, and that at 12 years old should know better. They are calling me an a and my daughter is just upset.,
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    Pacific Westerns As a former middle school teacher (now HS), NTA. Your daughter is NTA. This girl, this clown, has been allowed to disrupt the classroom, to steal learning opportunities
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    from her classmates, to do whatever she pleases. The parents have supported her awful behavior. I guarantee they have been contacted by the teacher. I promise you they have. And they were either non-responsive
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    or threatening in response. They are enabling this behavior and your daughter called the kid on it. And THAT IS OKAY. That
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    is your daughter defending herself after enduring time, attention, and energy theft by this kid in class. NTA. That girl and her parents are.
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    GrahamCrackerJack Question: How does a 12-year-old have such terrible manners that she sticks her fingers in the frosting of someone else's cake?
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    Answer: She has moron parents who laugh at her terrible manners and call it cute, while attacking anyone who gets angry at their poor little Snookums for misbehaving.
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    GirlDad2023_ Kelly ruined the cake and the party, I'd hold mom responsible for inviting her. Your daughter is NTA at all. You seem to be the only level headed person in this fiasco.
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    herasi I'd be sending the mom a bill for the cake, tbh. Hold her responsible for her terrible parenting.
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    Ok_Ad_2437 NTA. A 12 year old should and does know better. Kelly is at the age where she's going to start facing natural social consequences for her actions. At lot of people will probably
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    jump on the "but what if she's neurodivergent???!!!!" wagon but neurodivergent children can and should learn right from wrong and swiping frosting off someone else's cake is pretty basic manners.
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    Goth_Spice14 I was once the neurodivergent class clown. If Kelly had done that to my cake, I probably would have tackled her.
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    Drawinganewleaf Yeaaa NTA the child is twelve NOT two. She's knew better than to swipe her stick fingers on someone else's birthday cake. Your ex-wife is the real a h le.
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    EntertainmentDry8298 NTA - your ex owes your daughter two apologies: one for inviting Kelly and another for saying she should be punished.
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    Did HeJustGoThere NTA. Your daughter established boundaries with a particular person, and you respected
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    her decision. When that person showed up anyway, they demonstrated why your daughter wanted the boundary. Her freaking out is justified.

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